"We Need to Talk About the House." Now What?
Nobody puts "sell the house together" on a to-do list next to "figure out the rest of my life." But here you are, and the house is probably the biggest thing you two own. Good news: it's very doable, even if you two aren't speaking. Here's the roadmap.
Quick disclaimer: I'm a Realtor, not an attorney or a CPA. Think of me as your house person. They handle the legal and tax pieces, and I handle the part with the front door.
Step zero: call your attorney before you call me
Yes, really. Whether you sell, keep, or buy each other out is a legal and money decision, and your family law attorney should lead it. Once there's a plan, I make the sale smooth.
The five things you'll both need to agree on
1. Are we selling? Some people keep the house and buy out the other person. That takes a lender and your attorney. If the answer is "sell," keep reading.
2. The price. This is where couples get stuck, because the number feels personal. It's not about who's right. A neutral price opinion based on recent sales gives you both the same facts, and I'll show you exactly how I got there.
3. Who decides what. Who approves offers? Who talks to me? Many couples pick one point of contact, and some run everything through their attorneys. Both are totally fine.
4. Getting it ready. Declutter, fix the small stuff, take great photos. Agree on a budget and a timeline up front, so nobody's surprised later. Showings are by appointment, and nobody has to hover.
5. Where the money goes. Your attorney and CPA sort out the split and the tax side. What I can give them is a realistic timeline and an estimate of selling costs, so they're working with real numbers and not guesses.
What if you two aren't talking?
Then I'm the Switzerland of your sale. I don't take sides. Both owners get the same updates at the same time. I can talk to you separately or through your attorneys, and you never have to be in a room together to sell a house.
Watch the clock
Court dates and closing dates don't always match up. Offers have deadlines. That's why I like to loop in your attorney early, so the sale lines up with the legal steps and nothing catches anyone off guard.
Quick answers
- Can we sell before the divorce is final? Often yes, but it depends on how you hold title and what the court or your agreement requires. Ask your attorney before you list.
- Do we both have to sign? Usually everyone on the title signs. Your attorney can confirm for your situation.
- What if we can't agree on price? Start with the same neutral recent-sales numbers. If you're still stuck, your attorney can help.
- Do I have to be home for showings? Nope. They're by appointment.
- Who do I ask about taxes on the sale? A CPA, and ask before you sign anything.
Want a no-pressure game plan?
No pitch, no pressure. Just a calm conversation about the house part, built to work alongside your legal and tax team.
Call or text Nicole Davidson:
916-693-3369
Nicole Davidson, Realtor | Davidson + Associates | Guide Real Estate
DRE# 02028842 | Broker DRE# 01976964
1610 R Street, Suite 280, Sacramento, CA 95811
General information only, not legal or tax advice. Please consult a licensed family law attorney and a CPA about your situation.
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